Loving Pregnant Belly Abstract by teacupviking on etsy
I really have tried not to make all my posts about pregnancy but it is teaching me so much about life that I can't help it. And, I'm working on releasing all the 'shoulds' and just following the wisdom of my journey. Pregnancy is my current lens of experience and I hope you can learn from it too. I'm sure motherhood will be quite an interesting teacher as well when it gets here.
We talk a lot in self development circles about being present in the moment. Pregnancy has brought me into my body and into the present moment in ways I never thought about before. For one thing, I have a little being who will literally kick me occasionally to bring me back to paying attention to my body. That is a wonderous and startling and strange experience, certainly. And every movement brings me right to where I am and feeling my body. (My bladder also gets my attention fairly often, but that's another story...)
When I cook, I think more consciously about what I'm eating and I put more thought and love into it because it's for my little one. I'm taking self-care more seriously and trying to stay in optimum health so I can have a home birth. I'm drinking the amount of water I know I should, when before I sometimes missed. I have been lucky not to get too many bad side effects- no crazy cravings, not much heartburn, etc. But when I do get a pain or ache, I'm intensely aware of it so that I can make sure nothing is wrong.
I'm paying more attention to my body's cues. When I'm tired, I rest. When I'm hungry, I eat. I often have to move and stretch, so I'm getting up from my desk more often and sitting on a yoga ball at my desk sometimes. These all bring my attention back into my body. I'm enjoying reading and sleeping in and all the little moments to myself right now, because I know that soon those will all be different. When I bend over now to pick up something, I'm reminded that there's a little extra in my middle (although I'm very happy that my mobility is still mostly uninhibited). And I look at myself in the mirror all the time- looking for any changes or developments.
I've been taking more self portraits, to track the belly explosion, and noticed that people are so supportive about appearance to pregnant women. None of my other profile photos have elicited so many compliments and "You're glowing"s. Even when they're dimly lit and my hair is barely brushed and I am certainly not glowing. I think there's a lesson there for how we can support others- when a friend posts a photo, we should always tell them they're beautiful. Because we can always see it and they sometimes can't.
The bigger lesson, though, in all this, is that why do I have to wait until there is a baby in my body to care so much for me? Why can I nap now but not before? (Partly because the exhaustion won't let me get by without napping, but still, it's not fair to my body to push past tired.) Why am I paying attention to everything but what my body feels like right now?
I'm hoping I'll remember this, at least in glimmers, when I'm a mama, because I know mamas are the most notorious about forgetting themselves and their bodies. Maybe that's part of why we start out with these 9 months of intense presence, so we'll have something to remember when there are other beings calling out for our attention 24-7.
And I'm hoping that you'll be inspired to give yourself at least 20 minutes of paying attention to yourself today.
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My 2013 Incredible Year Planner!
Wow- It's already 2013! Time just seems to be speeding up for me every year. Here we are on the cusp of another awesome year! As we turn the page on each year to the new blank chapter to be written, I feel the need for reflection and planning, just like most people. My birthday is New Year's Eve, so this is truly the new year beginning for me.
Over the last three years, my most essential planning tool has become Leonie Dawson's Incredible Year Planner
(formerly known as the Creating My Goddess Year Planner) (Yes, that's an affiliate link. I adore this product and would love for you to have your own.) It's beautifully colorful and inspiring, while being extremely useful and functional at the same time. One of the key pieces is that it takes you through a review of your past year, so that you see how far you've come, how much you've grown and learned. And then it builds your new year goals, dreams, plans.
It's far too much to work through in just a few hours (and planning your year is important, so that's ok) so I spread it out over a week or two. I start with the releasing of 2012 and let that experience have the honor and gratitude it deserves. Then, I spend an afternoon thumbing through 2013 and answering the parts that come easily, while I chew on the tougher parts. I let it simmer for a while and come back the next day.
100 Things to Do in 2013!!!
Today is my third day. I'm filling in my 100 Things to Do list. Because it's so long, it really makes you S-T-R-E-T-C-H into things you want to do but would never write down otherwise. And writing them down really helps you make it happen. Last year, one of the first things on my list was to learn Reiki. A good friend of mine sent out an invitation that week to her Reiki training in early February. I was able to mark that one right off and I might have missed it.
I usually get about 40 on the list and then I have to come back a bit later to add more. I keep it running for most of January, whenever I think of new things. Leonie also encourages you to break your goals down into action items so that they can go from dreams to done. (You'll never be the next J.K. Rowling if you don't write a single page.)
This is a wonderful process for starting your year on the right foot. The key is not to get overwhelmed or feel like you should have had it all done by 12-31. I got my 2012 done before New Year's this year, but last year it was after. I figure I've got the whole year ahead and the key is planning something. Just like your GPS needs you to give it an address of where you're headed, you're more likely to reach your dreams if you head in their direction. I still haven't picked my word for the year- that's something I'm still feeling out. Because of the baby, I know my whole world will change in May and I don't want to overpressure myself. So, I'm trying to find something that feels like a gentle stretch forward instead of a big leap.
What do you do for beginning a new year? Do you pick a word or phrase?
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Image by IzaDa
(Originally guest posted here on KindOverMatter.) You’re dirty.
You’re no good and you cause destruction everywhere you go.
You make me feel dirty.
You’re a snob. You’re greedy and unkind.
If I said those things to you, would you want to hang out with me? Would you be my friend? I know I wouldn’t and I doubt that you would. (Side note: If you would or you have a friend who makes you feel that way, PLEASE read this and then get a coach or a good friend to help you build up your self-worth muscles, because I promise you are worth so much more than to be treated like that.)
Yet, we all say those things about money and the people that have it every day. It pervades our vocabulary, culture, and even the major religions. ‘Filthy’ rich. ‘Stinking’ rich. ‘Money is the root of all evil.’ ‘Money is dirty.’
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I posted this quote from Oprah's Lifeclass on my facebook page because it resonated so deeply with me. One of the comments was that we need a daily reminder of this and I agreed. Please, feel free to set this as your desktop background or print it and post it in your home. The photo is one I took in India.
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I adore books. I read constantly, at least a book every 2 weeks. I love learning and exploring worlds I've never seen and all the wonder that a new book can hold. So, when Amy Palko announced her Summer Read-along
of The Time Traveler's Wife
by Audrey Niffenegger, I jumped right in. This is my first time reading it, and I have gotten to page 284. Even though I've seen the movie and know the ending, the book is so beautiful that I find it harder and harder to put it down. There are many messages in this book about love and time and memory, but the passage that I keep coming to over and over again is this: "I am having a hard time, in my tiny bedroom studio, in the beginning of my married life. The space that I can call mine, that isn’t full of Henry, is so small that my ideas have become small. I am like a caterpillar in a cocoon of paper; all around me are sketches for sculptures, small drawings that seem like moths fluttering against the windows, beating their wings to escape from this tiny space. I make maquettes, tiny sculptures that are rehearsals for huge sculptures. Every day the ideas come more reluctantly, as though they know I will starve them and stunt their growth. At night I dream about color, about submerging my arms into vats of paper fibre. I dream about miniature gardens I can’t set foot in because I am a giantess. .... The magic I can make is small magic now, deferred magic. Every day I work, but nothing ever materializes.
"I feel a great connection to Clare here, because I too have seen my dreams and creations shrink to fit the space I had. For the last two years, my husband and I have been in a very small space. We have a bedroom, a bathroom, and a kitchen. We have no privacy because my parent's pool is in our kitchen and no separate space to get away from each other. I am a creative, artsy craftsy person and I love to make things with my hands. While we've been here, I haven't been creating
or drawing or painting or feeding my soul in all those wonderful ways. I have felt myself receding away piece by piece. My inner muse was in hibernation and I was just going through the motions of life, without much real connection or meaning for myself.
n the beginning of this year, my sleeping giant woke up and I have spent this year growing and developing myself again. I have been taking art courses online and learning to create mandalas and writing again. I have found life coaching and a way to fulfill my purpose by helping other women to rekindle their own passions as I've rediscovered mine. I am leaping out into the great unknown to make my dreams come true. I am dancing again and dreaming big dreams and creating my best life. I feel like Alice in Wonderland when she eats the cake and keeps getting bigger and bigger. I look at the full moon and feel my own expansion growing to match. We are looking for a house of our own so that I can continue to grow and expand and flourish in a sacred room of my own. But even without that room, I refuse to let my magic be diminished. And I encourage you to make sure your magic isn't squashed either. The world deserves our biggest and brightest dreams.