You’re beautiful Mirror Decal by luxeloft on etsy
OK, so it should be all, but if you're like 75% of people, it can't be all, because you've already started listing out your go-to list of reasons why you're not really beautiful. That list that you pull out, whenever you get a compliment or are in front of a mirror. That list you practically alphabetize in your head when you try on clothes. Click to read the rest over at Kind Over Matter.
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(Originally guest posted here on KindOverMatter.) You’re dirty.
You’re no good and you cause destruction everywhere you go.
You make me feel dirty.
You’re a snob. You’re greedy and unkind.
If I said those things to you, would you want to hang out with me? Would you be my friend? I know I wouldn’t and I doubt that you would. (Side note: If you would or you have a friend who makes you feel that way, PLEASE read this and then get a coach or a good friend to help you build up your self-worth muscles, because I promise you are worth so much more than to be treated like that.)
Yet, we all say those things about money and the people that have it every day. It pervades our vocabulary, culture, and even the major religions. ‘Filthy’ rich. ‘Stinking’ rich. ‘Money is the root of all evil.’ ‘Money is dirty.’
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1. One of my favorite photos of my parents. 2. My dad decided Mrs. Claus was more interesting than Mr., so he tried on the costume. Many hours of laughter have since ensued.
Yesterday was one of the best days I've had in a long time. I laughed so hard I couldn't breathe and my throat is sore today from it.
It's also the day I found out my little sister has endometrial cancer.
I know it sounds like those two statements can't possibly both be true, but they are. Her cancer is in the earliest, least aggressive stage and her doctor was very positive about the hormone treatments working for her.
This is not my family's first round with cancer. Thirteen years ago, my dad was diagnosed with stage four terminal sebaceous cell carcinoma. Today, he's as healthy and happy as ever. Chemo took a lot out of him, but he never lost his sense of humor or his positive attitude. (This is a man who wore his Cat in the Hat hat for his Sam's Club photo ID so that the door greeters and cashiers would smile when he came in.) He baked cakes for his chemo nurses and took them gifts every week. He's a farmer, but he retired after his diagnosis because he didn't have the energy for the labor intensive farm work. He took up sewing with his new-found free time and started making pillows for the chemo center to give the patients during their treatments. He made floor pillows for everyone he knew (I still have 3 of them). He and my mom made a book of the inspirational statements they found, including what Cancer CANNOT Do. They still give them to anyone they know who is affected by cancer. It took a toll on all of us, but the positivity and humor that we found certainly had a profound impact on his healing and helped us all cope with such a difficult situation.
My whole family is full of smartasses and we make wise crack comments all the time when we're together. Yesterday was no different. And my sister was leading the charge. Her doctor had a bit of trouble finding her cervix during the exam. Her response was "Oh, has it gone on a walkabout again? Well, keep looking, I'm not going anywhere." Her doctor cracked up and the room was full of smiles instead of sadness.
My sister's current treatment plan is hormone therapy and doesn't include radiation or chemo or surgery, so hopefully she won't have to deal with the worst of the side effects of cancer. Her outlook is sunny and she is full of the best medicines- love, laughter, and support. The forecast is brilliant and today truly is a Good Friday!
If you need a little medicine, here's a video that's sure to activate your laugh muscles:
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My photos from a recent photo walk in the riverfront park
Every day is a new day.
I know this, in my head, but in spring, I really get it. Suddenly, the world is created anew every day. On Tuesday, as I was driving home, I noticed that my neighborhood is suddenly bursting with pink in all shades. The azaleas are blooming and it’s a festival of delight to see the color suddenly all over the place. I couldn't remember seeing them before that moment, so it seemed like overnight everything was brand new.
Last night, I saw that the basil seeds I planted are now little baby basil plants (very exciting, since I’m not the greenest-thumbed gal!) in only a few short days. This fresh newness is inspiring and invigorating me. I’m feeling more motivated to create and write and do. During our Spring Equinox celebration, my friend was sharing what she read about the energy inside a seed. She said that they actually start to vibrate inside, until they break forth with a new plant. Just imagine: a whole new life bursting forth, because there was too much to do and create to stay inside that safe seed casing.
That’s exactly the feeling that I get in spring- that there is so much to do and so many things to see and so much life to live!!!! I feel likethe dog in Up!
“Oh! A Ball! Oh, boy! Oh, boy! A Ball! Squirrel!”- just constantly amazed by the world I live in. I’m writing and creating and taking photos and just soaking up the joy that the universe is full of. Yes, ordinary things still go on, like bills and doctor visits and taxes. Unpleasant things don't disappear when the flowers bloom. But the flowers are reminding me that I can choose to bloom where I am, even if it’s not the perfect spot just yet. There is much joy in the blooming and so I do. Every day really is a new day and a new opportunity to bloom.
What about you? Do the seasons affect your mood? And, if you’re in the Southern Hemisphere, what does the energy of your season shift feel like?
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I posted this quote from Oprah's Lifeclass on my facebook page because it resonated so deeply with me. One of the comments was that we need a daily reminder of this and I agreed. Please, feel free to set this as your desktop background or print it and post it in your home. The photo is one I took in India.
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What would change in your life- how would it reframe your perspective, if you asked yourself “what’s the best that could happen?” So often we play into our own fears by asking “what’s the worst that could happen?” And we dig down into the muck and draw out all those deep seated, sometimes hidden fears. I’d much rather go with the best case scenario. It draws in all the positive energy, excites you, makes you stretch into your bigness, and doesn’t activate those fears.
Let’s say you’re a writer and you’ve written your first book and it’s about to be published. You can face the demons with your worst case scenario: “I have my big launch, nobody reads my book……and I die cold and alone in a ditch.” That’s always where our worst case scenario eventually ends up- cold and alone in death, because that’s really our deepest fear- that we are unlovable and will be alone when we die. I don’t want to dwell in that place- it’s no good for our dreams to think this way.
Now, let’s jump big and ask for the best case scenario. “I launch my big book- everyone loves it! Gayle buys it for Oprah as a gift- Oprah falls in love with it and I become an instant international best seller because she tells her viewers about it. I get a spot in her magazine and I get invited to the next edition of Lifeclass. I get to meet my favorite writers, get on the Today show, win awards, and buy my dream house on the beach. All my next 10 books are best sellers as well and I never doubt my talents again. I live happily ever after with my true love.”
If you’re going to imagine scenarios that may never happen, doesn’t it feel so much better to imagine it this way? It puts you in a much better emotional place and makes it that much more likely that your ‘too good to be true’ might come true. It inspires and excites me to think of all the amazing things that could happen. It is likely to motivate you to do a ‘crazy’ thing, like sending a copy to Oprah or another of your heroes. And that ‘crazy’ idea could be what makes the difference between your worst case and best case.
So next time you’re feeling anxious about a project or even about your life, take a minute to play out your best case scenario. And PLEASE share them in the comments. I’d love to hear about your best case and help you stretch it even bigger! PS. If you need a reminder, click on the picture for a full size version you can download, as my gift to you. If you need support in dreaming your Best Case Scenario, please check out my Work page for more info on how we could work together. Or go here for info about a free Fairy Godmother Session to dig into your dreams and see what magics we can find.