1. It’s ok to block out negativity. Actually, it's more than ok, it's wonderful. The best way to stay positive and in the best frame of mind for growth is to block out negative influences.
One of my friends was telling me that she skips through her Facebook feed to the positive posts to start out her day on a good note. I was surprised that she had any negative ones, as I’ve hidden all of mine. Anyone who is more likely to post a bad or depressing status is simply hidden from my feed or unfriended if I don’t have a reason that I may need to reach them in the future (such as family or coworkers).
I have a connection whose posts were always so sad that I felt like Eeyore when I read them. I hid her posts (and several others) and Facebook is not so emotionally draining anymore. Don’t feel like you have to read those negative posts and rush in to save that person. If they’re truly depressed or suicidal, encourage them to get help OFFLINE. Don’t drown yourself in their bad energy, because it won’t help either one of you. Send them positive thoughts/posts and support them with good stories and love instead. And if they’re just being dramatic for the attention it gets them, rushing in to comment only encourages more drama.
If you don’t know how to hide someone, it’s easy. When they post a status, put your mouse over to the right and a little down arrow will appear. Click on it and select Unsubscribe from. You can also go to their Timeline and click on the Friends box over to the right. If you want to Unfriend them, that’s at the bottom, but you can uncheck Show in News Feed to get rid of their posts and keep them as a friend. They won’t know you’ve done that, but your feed will be empty of the negativity.
2. You can hide your posts from coworkers, bosses, family members, or anyone who might annoy or bother you.
These days we're 'friends' with all sorts of people we're connected to but not truly friends with. This causes us to have some uncomfortable situations with our sharing. I recently got an email from a friend whose coworker seemed to be watching her Facebook posts extra closely. She doesn’t post anything offensive or outrageous, but she was nervous about why she was getting this extra attention and wondered if the coworker was trying to use her personal information against her in some way. I walked her through the process of restricting her privacy settings so that her coworker would only be able to see the things she wanted her to see.
Here are the steps for you to do the same:
1. Go to the top right corner on Facebook & click on the Dropdown Arrow.
2. Choose Privacy Settings.
3. Go to the bottom, to Manage Blocking.
4. Add to your Restricted List is at the top, click on Edit List. You can make a list of people who can't see you (if you want more than one to be limited). Type the names & then select them when they come up.
5. Then go Back to Privacy.
6. At the top, under Control Your Default Privacy, click on Custom.
7. Under Make this Visible, choose Friends.
8. Under Hide this From, Type Restricted & then select it when it comes up. Now all your posts will be hidden from your Restricted list. They won't know- they'll just think you're not posting anymore.
9. They can still see your wall and post to it, but none of your posts will show for them unless you change them.
10. If you want them to see one occasionally, you just click on the little wheel below the status bar and change it to Friends instead of Custom. It only changes for that one status notice. That way you completely control what is seen, by whom, and when.
11. You can also go into Timelines & Tagging (also on the Privacy Settings) to block them from seeing what other people post about you, too. That's optional- depends on how much you want to shut her out. Just select Custom on all the Who can see categories.
I’m sure there are more ways to make it a better virtual world, so please share your tips in the comments.
Finally, I make an effort to post inspirational, uplifting, helpful information and graphics everyday on my Facebook page, so come hang out!